Tuesday, December 13, 2005

Vidhiya? Sadhiya?

She was a widow with two children, both of them girls. Her husband had died in an accident and she got her husband's job on compassionate grounds. So, food, shelter, clothing, education and other basic needs were taken care of. The major problem was their health condition. All three often had epileptic seizures. One of them would be hospitalised almost every month. But inspite of all this, they were always positive about the future. They would never complain, blame anyone, even raise their voice. Both the girls had artistic inclination excelling in Kolam(rangoli), sketches, hand work etc. They even did graduation through distant learning programs.

Like all mothers, She too wanted her daughters to be happily married. Everyone in the family were overjoyed when they found a groom from a good family. She did not hide her daughter's medical problems and the groom's family seemed understanding. They did not demand much, not even a grand wedding!She was extremely relieved to have done half her duties now that the eldest daughter was married. Everyone else in the family too felt happy for her. But 'man proposes, God disposes'! She was shattered when her eldest daughter came back complaining of terrible abuses! More shocking was the news of the groom's mental condition. He was normal most of the times but suffered from violent mood swings at times. Now the groom's family accepted that the groom had mental problems and had been advised that he would be cured after marriage!!!

The Elders in the family talked and decided that the groom would seek medical help and on getting cured would be reunited with his wife. The daughter was adamant about not going back to him but nobody listened. Amidst all these distressing events, She got one of those epileptic attacks which had been on bay for sometime. Again, back to the days of hospitals, medicines etc. Then came the devastating news of her eldest daughter's suicide!

What is her crime? Why is she subjected to so much torture?

** - This is not fiction. The lady is a distant relative of mine. Today is her daughter's 3rd death anniversary.

5 comments:

I said...

Haven't u grasped the futility of life, yet?

Me too said...

MT, nope cos the 4 letter bad word 'HOPE'!

Sasiprabha said...

Cruel. That girl only know how much torcher she undergone.. Any one can say easily "Amma needhaan anusarichu poikkanum".. Who is going to bear the pain.. The spoken mouth or the sinked heart. Most of the girl's family members are very well desirous on sending back her to maamiyaar veedu, when she came to them with any trouble. Even they wont try to find her problem and solve, but so curious in sending her back.. " Thalai valium kaaichalum thanakku vandhaa thaan theriumaam ".

Me too said...

These age-old traditions are still hard to change! A mistake that couldn't be rectified in time!

Ramya said...

sick..romba paavam.. why r these mothers like this?
sasi, u r very true.. one of my close does'nt have very good in laws..when she tells her mom abt this, she asks her to adjust.. when even parents dont help whom will the daughters go to..

And aparna, one of my relative(athai ponnu) is facing the same problem.. he is a psycho..beats her black n blue.. they have a 10 yr old daughter also..now she s planning to be away from him for a while, find a job for herself and put her daughter in a different school.. she s also too late..she underwent plenty of tortures..

Am reminded of the movie 'provoked' Aishwarya rai's movie..where she murders her husband highly provoked after a number of incidents.. a great movie ..which thoroughly instills lot of courage for women..not abt killing.. abt how she grows confident in the prison..

coming to ur title.. vidhiyai madhiyaal vendrirukalaam AMMA udhaviyirundhaal...